Marcus Aurelius

The concept of connectedness, and the whole, flows throughout the “Meditations”. In common with all the Stoics, Marcus Aurelius believed that we are part of an inner-connected organism.

“Always remember these things: what the nature of the Whole is, what my own nature is, the relation of this nature to that, what kind of part it is of what kind of Whole, and that there is no one who can prevent you keeping all that you say and do in accordance with that nature, of which you are a part.”

• You should not be upset by the misdeeds of others, correct them if possible, but if they are stubborn and will not change, accept it.
• In your response to these difficult people, you must never allow your own principles to be violated.
• You should not be surprised by the bad deeds of others, and it is pointless to wish for it to be otherwise.
• People do bad things out of ignorance of what is good and evil, and you should forgive them because of their ignorance.
• People are social animals and meant to live in harmony.

“He who sees the present has seen all things, both all that has come to pass from everlasting and all that will be for eternity: all things are related and the same.

You should meditate often on the connection of all things in the universe and their relationship to each other.

In a way all things are interwoven and therefore have a family feeling for each other: one thing follows another in due order through the tension of movement, the common spirit inspiring them, and the unity of all being.”

• Marcus Aurelius repeatedly explained why the pursuit of fame and praise is foolish.
• He points out that so many famous men have been forgotten
• He explains that there are no immortal actions:

“Consider that as the heaps of sand piled on one another hide the former sands, so in life the events which go before are soon covered by those which come after.”

• Fame will always fade into oblivion and pursuit of it merely demonstrates one’s vanity.
• Nothing is made better by praise, the beauty of things comes from the thing itself and not what people say about it.
• To think then that you are gaining something by being praised is a mistake.

 “When you’ve done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top— credit for the good deed or a favor in return?”

• The person with strong desires is ignoring the well-being of others because they want something more than they want to be virtuous.

•  Marcus Aurelius speaks strongly on the eternally changing nature of the universe and the acceptance of death.
• He reminds us that all of us will die, however, we only ever lose the present moment because that is all we ever have.
• He also reminds us that we could die at any moment and to live to the fullest while we still can.

“Not to live as if you had endless years ahead of you. Death overshadows you. While you’re alive and able — be good.”

• Our perceptions of events as troublesome are the real source of any unhappiness we experience, not the events themselves.
• Marcus Aurelius believed that a person could immediately wipe any upsetting impressions from their mind and be at peace.
• He also recommended remembering the following whenever we experience anxiety:

“Let not future things disturb you, for you will come to them, if it shall be necessary, having with you the same reason which you now use for present things.”

• If we don’t let events make us worse people, we are never truly harmed by them.

“Choose not to be harmed — and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed — and you haven’t been.”

 “Our actions may be impeded . . . but there can be no impeding our intentions or dispositions. Because we can accommodate and adapt. The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting.”

 “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”

• Your ability to reason is what sets you apart from the animals and is an important power that you must use to the fullest.
• Reason could be used to understand the universal reason present in nature, which would lead to agreement with it even if events seemed harmful.
• Our rational minds have complete power over our opinions and the mind only experiences suffering when it itself creates a desire for a specific outcome in life.
• Your mind cannot be affected by events unless it makes itself be affected.
•  Every appearance is the result of what the mind wills it to appear to be and the mind makes itself exactly what it is.

 “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”